Recently I've gotten real "caught up" so to speak over the Bible's teaching of "predestination". From my understanding (which sometimes is screwed up :biggrin

predestination is basically that God before the creation of human kind "elected" or "chose" who will go to heaven and who will not. As I've studied this teaching and done as much research as my intellect will allow I've come across several questions but cannot get many people (that I come in contact with) to attempt to answer them for me.
This is often a touchy and difficult subject, and most people don't care enough to or think they can spend the time in study to form a solid, defendable opinion on the subject, which is why you aren't finding a lot of answers. As for your personal study, I have some good resources on this at home, I'll look them up when I get a chance.
These questions I have aren't in the manner of I already have my belief about the questions and I just want to argue. I really want to find out how my questions of certain scripture and teachings "fit in" with the teaching of predestination. If someone can attempt to answer some of them I'd appreciate it. Again, I'm NOT asking simply to argue or debate.
1. Taking the viewpoint that "predestination"/"election" is what the Bible is really teaching. How does the "Great Commission" fit in? Jesus commanded before he ascended into heaven to go make disciples of all men from all nations. If the decision has already been made what's the point?
Good question. It really depends on your view of predestination. There are several interpretations on the subject. If you are a Calvinist, and follow his TULIP theory, then you subscribe to a strict theory of predestination where you basically have no choice in the matter. You are either destined to be saved or lost and there's nothing you can do about it. If this is the case then, as you ask, why is the Great Commission necessary? You can't save someone who is predestined to be lost by preaching to them, and if someone is predestined to be saved, they can't be lost by you not preaching to them. I've yet to get a good answer on this view, especially in regards to free will. You'll hear a lot of things like you do those things (good works, reaching out, etc.) out of gratitude, because that's what saved people do, to make the world a better place, etc. It all sounds like a lot of double-talk to me.
2. How far does "predestination" reach in a person's life? Are we just character's in a huge story and we're just playing out our roles that the Author has written? Or does predestination only apply to the salvation process and everything else we have a choice? Such as whether I want to go to Krogers or Wal Mart, be an accountant or a lawyer?
Almost everyone who believes in predestination attributes it to salvation only. However, how far the providence of God ventures into your daily life is a varied belief. Perhaps it has nothing to do with your vocation, or perhaps you become an accountant to come into contact with the person who will introduce you to Christ.
Predestination only applying to the salvation process is termed Predestination of the Method, Predestination of the Way, or Predestination of the Elect and is typically a minority view. It states that the method is all that was predetermined and does not apply to individuals, but those who will obey and be saved. While this theory fully agrees with the gift of free will, there are many scriptures that reference or allude to predestination that seem to be much more specific.
3. What do I teach my kids about God? From a predestination teaching God doesn't "love" everybody. He made "vessels of wrath" and "vessels of mercy". I was raised that "Jesus loves you" and "wants the best for you" etc. However, from a predestination standpoint and according to scripture all throughout Bible that may not be true. If you are one of the "elect" God/Jesus loves you. But if you happen to be a "vessel of wrath" or one of the ones that isn't part of the "elect" then God doesn't love you. If our fate is decided before we're even born the what do I teach my kids?
My personal belief is that Predestination applies to us as individuals, but is based on the foreknowledge of God. Predestination is often referenced, both in the Old and New Testaments, along with foreknowledge. I believe Romans 8:29 is one example.
The typical argument against this type of predestination from both the Calvinist and the Methodology angles is a little puzzling to me, since it is the same. The argument is that if God foreknew our salvation then we have no choice in the matter, that is, no free will. How this conflicts with the Calvinist viewpoint beyond semantics I can't figure out.
From the Methodology camp this argument at first makes sense. If God knew before the world was created whether we would "choose" to be saved or be lost, is it really a choice? The problem with this argument is that it does not take into account the nature of the existence of God. God exists outside of our universe, outside of our limits of space and time. We are bound by the physical laws of this universe, and tend to think in those terms. God created the universe, therefore he exists outside of it, and outside of its constraints.
The best analogy I can come up with is this. You are a jeweler, and have been commissioned with creating the Super Bowl rings and trophy for the champions this year, engraving their names on the rings. A month before the Super Bowl, you receive a DVD. You watch the DVD, and it is a collection of news reports and highlights that appear to be from today through the Super Bowl. You don't think it's real at first, but after two weeks, every single thing in the video has occurred exactly as it did on the video. You see an opportunity here. You can have the rings and trophy engraved and ready for the winner right when the Super Bowl is over. You create and engrave the rings and the trophy and as the Super Bowl ends, exactly as it did on the tape, you present them to the winning team. And you didn't have to create two sets of rings, since you already knew what would happen. Does this mean that the other team didn't have the same chance of winning as the team that won? Does it mean their actions had no consequence? Those questions are debatable. However, did you do anything to control their actions? No. Just because you knew what was going to happen doesn't mean that you did anything to make it happen.
Since God exists outside our universe and its constraints, he can see our existence from beginning to end. Before, or at depending upon your view of foreknowledge, the creation of the universe, God could see its existence from beginning to end. He could see each of our lives from beginning to end, as if it had already happened. When God predestined us to be saved or lost, and wrote our names in the Book of Life, it was because in a way, for him, it had already happened.
It's very hard for us to understand and, because of that, many people choose to dismiss the idea. However, the existence of God in any form is difficult if not impossible for us as humans to understand. Sit and concentrate on a being, God, having no beginning and no end. It's easier for us to comprehend no end than no beginning. It's extremely difficult to understand, or wrap our heads around, God having no beginning and no end. And that truth is rather cut and dried. If we can't understand that rather basic concept of his existence, how can we fully understand the foreknowledge of God?
Anyway, that's my opinion.