So, I'm getting together with an old friend next week

[GreatDanish]

This is a friend from high school. We played in a band together for a few years. Haven't seen him in years.
He told me that he is now transitioning to female. He's apparently been doing it for a while now, but when we get together, he will be presenting as female.

So, I'm a bit shocked by it - I've known some transgendered people, but never a close friend. I never would have thought that he would be transgendered. He's had a very difficult couple of years - not sure if his difficulties are related.

Anyone ever met up with an old friend who all of a sudden told you that they were transgender?

Any tips? I'll just be honest - I'm actually a bit nervous. Like I know I'm supposed to not be shocked, but it's going to be hard to not be shocked to see my friend who I've seen thousands of times as a man dressed as a woman. I'll certainly treat him like I would have if he were not transgender... j

 

[Crimson1967]

Let us know if she is hawt.


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[Relayer]

I'd say just be honest. Why do you think you aren't you supposed to be shocked? That kind of change (out of the blue to you) would be a bit shocking to most, and I would think your friend probably knows that. So your being at least "surprised" would be normal and probably expected by your friend. You can be accepting, even supportive of his change, if you wish, and still be honest and genuine.

You'll be less nervous if you're being yourself. That's what I'd do, anyway.

 

[Bodhisattva]

Is the tranny also a midget hooker?

 

[ValuJet]

Well, at least you can still talk about girls you knew that you thought were hot.

I think. No, wait.

 

[GreatDanish]

Let us know if she is hawt.


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She's got male parts still. So, if you're into that sort of thing, maybe.

 

[GreatDanish]

I'd say just be honest. Why do you think you aren't you supposed to be shocked? That kind of change (out of the blue to you) would be a bit shocking to most, and I would think your friend probably knows that. So your being at least "surprised" would be normal and probably expected by your friend. You can be accepting, even supportive of his change, if you wish, and still be honest and genuine.

You'll be less nervous if you're being yourself. That's what I'd do, anyway.

I plan on being myself and being honest. But, I also want to be a bit aware of my reactions. I mean, if I just let it all loose and be an open book, I'll probably stare and keep on saying, "Whoa. It's just so weird that you're you, but you're a girl." He even told me he understands it'll be weird.

 

[Crimson1967]

I plan on being myself and being honest. But, I also want to be a bit aware of my reactions. I mean, if I just let it all loose and be an open book, I'll probably stare and keep on saying, "Whoa. It's just so weird that you're you, but you're a girl." He even told me he understands it'll be weird.

I'm sure your friend is used to the odd stares and reactions from old friends when he tells people about her new life. I think if you go in and ignore the fact he is dressed like a woman, he will think you are patronizing him. If he wasn't comfortable talking about if, he would not have looked you up so I'd think you should feel free to ask whatever you think is appropriate.

 

[ValuJet]

She's got male parts still. So, if you're into that sort of thing, maybe.

Post reported!

 

[formersoldier71]

It's nice to hear that things are going well with seebell.

 

[PacadermaTideUs]

She's got male parts still. So, if you're into that sort of thing, maybe.

 

[NationalTitles18]

I'll certainly treat him like I would have if he were not transgender... j

There are 2 ways to read that and guess which one I chose or that my brain went for....yeah, best not to treat him as anyone other than a friend who has changed a lot. I'll bet you've changed in other ways. But I agree that if you try to behave like you think you should then it will just make it more tense and awkward.

 

[Relayer]

I plan on being myself and being honest. But, I also want to be a bit aware of my reactions. I mean, if I just let it all loose and be an open book, I'll probably stare and keep on saying, "Whoa. It's just so weird that you're you, but you're a girl." He even told me he understands it'll be weird.

Alrighty, then. Sounds like you've got it licked.

 

[seebell]

Alrighty, then. Sounds like you've got it licked.

Funny Relayer! As Relayer said in an earlier post just be yourself.

 

[Bama Reb]

So in other words, your biggest worry is that there's not enough male left in him to invite him over to play football with the guys, but not yet enough female to ask her out on a date. I can see how that can be troubling.

 

[Bamaro]

Let us know if it moves.

 

[Catfish]

Let us know if it moves.

Probably just the cantaloupe.

 

[TIDE-HSV]

I think I'd be tempted to say "Dude, wouldn't it have been simpler just to go gay?" (I know it's not, or he wouldn't have gone to this much trouble already...)

 

[crimsonaudio]

It's nice to hear that things are going well with seebell.

That was brutal.

And I laughed aloud.

 

[seebell]

That was brutal.

And I laughed aloud.

Don't be laughing at me Boy! :mad2: I'll hit you with my purse!:biggrin: