I just read through this whole discussion. IMO many of you are spot-on with your remarks.
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They must all stay vigilant when it comes to predators. The church I attend does back ground checks on all workers and we are quick to call for help if something happens. I’ve dealt with two instances of what would be classified as abuse. It wasn’t with a small child, but teenagers. We called the police and made a report immediately. We fully cooperated and banned the persons from the church. We had both trespassed and they were convicted of their crime. Our idea is call the authorities immediately if we have an issue and be totally transparent. It has worked well for us and we have a good reputation in the community because people know we are diligent, and will go after anyone that steps out of line.
Well done to your and your church!
I've been on our church security team for over a dozen years. I've participated in some necessary-but-distasteful conferences and seminars over the years. (Some of the best, IMO, are the Sheepdog Seminars by Lt. Col. Dave Grossman.)
One night I couldn’t sleep. I turned on the TV and a gripping / awful / excellent movie was on. I recommend it to you … with a warning.
"Trust," starring Liana Liberato and Clive Owen, is a movie about a 14 year-old girl who gets raped by a late-30s man who groomed her for months in advance. Much of the story is about the predator’s grooming and how the family is so crushed by the rape of their daughter. I DID NOT want to watch this movie. I could not avoid it, at the same time….
The horrible paragraph above is not my warning. My warning is there IS bad language in this movie. The language didn’t strike me as gratuitous. It actually fit the tension and horror of the plot.
If you choose to watch Trust, watch it all the way through the credits at the end.
Trust was quickly REMOVED from production, so it’s not easy to find. (I think the movie hit too many nerves in Hollywood.) Maybe you can find it on one of the streaming services…?
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Notes from a Sheepdog Seminar:
• Sex Assaults are the NUMBER ONE reason churches get sued.
• The typical male pedophile gets caught after his 151st assault.
• The typical female pedophile gets caught after her 54th assault.
• In any Christian church 20% of the congregation has survived a sexual assault.
Knees down; chins up!