I have never heard a good definition of this bugbear("woke"). All i hear is dog whistles. Anything that's scary scary to wypipo. Hell, it's the reason they like Cane's Chicken because it's the opposite of Popeye's. Spice = woke.
The concept of 'woke' is the idea that there are systemic injustices in American society and that we need to address them.
The progressive supports cultural and legal reforms with the purpose of reducing and eliminating said injustices, usually with deliberate focus on marginalized groups.
The conservative views 'woke' as a set of ideas, viewpoints, and policy changes that they believe would radically and negatively alter society.
The inflection point where wokeness ceases to be useful, and begins to be destructive, is a) when every issue seems like it is viewed through the lens of oppressor and oppressed, b) when the expectation goes beyond justice, to a sense of entitlement to societal acceptance, c) when the role of personal responsibility is neglected, d) dissent is shouted down, misrepresented, or canceled, and/or e) the proposition seems absurd
A reactionary conservative may reject the notion that systemic injustices even exist.
A moderate conservative may stipulate that systemic injustices exist, but disagree about the scope of them, or what the appropriate remedy may be.
Unfortunately, public discourse is often not very nuanced, and terms like 'woke' end up lumping relatively uncontroversial ideas with more ridiculous ones, and we end up talking past each other.
Someone can believe that Ahmaud Arbery and George Floyd were victims, while also believing that defunding the police is not a great idea.
And they can simultaneously not mind if a trans woman (genetic male presenting female) uses the women's restroom and still believe sex changes are inappropriate for young children.
These are sincerely held beliefs, and if you think it's all dog whistles, that explains some of how we got where we are now.