I think devastation with loss is - for the most part - a product of what age you are at the time the game is played. I think its worse when you're younger than as you get older and football or sports are less important in the bigger picture.
When I was a teenager and Alabama lost - especially my senior year in the fall of 1986 - it would ruin my whole week or even month in some cases. By the time we lost to Florida, 35-0, in 1991, it was more of "well, okay." The losses in 2000 started painful because of the high expectations but by the time we lost to UCF, not only did you not feel them but in that game I began rooting for UCF to beat us so DuBose would leave/be gone.
I'm serious. I was so put out with his lack of coaching. The 2000 USM game was just the most depressing atmosphere I've ever seen on screen for a game that didn't involve a death (like the ATM bonfire tragedy of 1999). It was a lifeless, undisciplined, going through the motions football team.
The 2011 game with LSU hurt a bit, but I was still numb from the Rangers blowing the World Series the week before.
The 2016 Clemson game, while disappointing, didn't even really affect me. They caught the TD, I watched onsides kick and called the buddy I always talk to about this stuff. I wasn't hurt or angry, I just mused, "I've never seen us lose a national title game before," so it was weird.
2013 Auburn though? That was an exception in all probability because of the way it happened. Auburn scored 13 points in the final 31 seconds to win. Plus, I liked our chances of a three-peat if we got past them.