Well, I'll just tell you what several gay friends have told me. It's not about the appearance. It's about the EQUIPMENT. Even if a woman looks "butch", she's got the equipment and the temperament of a woman, and THAT'S what the other woman is mainly attracted to. The same holds true for a man. I'm just passing this along...I don't question it, but to understand gay people, you have to ask them. So I did.
i even lived with 2 lesbians for a yr and neither of them could figure it out.